The first stages of any relationship are fueled by hormones and excitement, but after a while – sometimes more quickly than others – this feeling will wear off, and things will calm down. This is perfectly natural and normal, and it means you’re at a stage where you’re either comfortable enough with one another to stick together long-term, or you know it’s time to call it quits. 

What if you don’t know what to do? What if you feel you love your partner, but the relationship has reached a stage where you’re simply bored? Is there a compromise to be made? Read on to find out what you can do. 

Talk to Your Partner 

If you keep your feelings bottled up inside, nothing will ever change. Your partner may not realize there is anything wrong, or perhaps they feel the same and don’t know what to do about it either. In either case, you’ll need to talk to them about how you feel – that way, you can make changes as a couple to put things back on track. 

Of course, simply coming out with the news that you’re bored in your relationship might not be the most diplomatic way to start any conversation like this, and if you want to come up with a solution, it will be better to think about what you want to say before you say it. You could even suggest that you try something new such as visit and spice things up that way. 

Change Your Routine 

Real life can often get in the way of a relationship and make things boring. After all, you have a home to take care of, dinner to cook, work to do, perhaps children and pets to look after. You have bills to pay and chores to carry out. How can you also have an exciting relationship with all these mundane things happening around you? 

If your day-to-day routine is causing you problems in your relationship, it’s time to change that routine. Do something spontaneous and fun and see how different you feel about one another when you start introducing this into your life. Examples of what you can do include suggesting you go and see a movie after dinner instead of watching TV, going away for a weekend without planning it for months in advance, or simply taking a picnic out somewhere for a change. Do something different, and your body, mind, and relationship will appreciate it. 

Make an Effort

One of the reasons relationships can get stale over time is that you stop making an effort. There is so much else going on that the thought of ‘dating’ your partner again may never come to your mind, and they become a lower priority in your life if they even feature at all. 

If you’re bored with the things happening – or not happening – in your relationship, think back to when you first met and the things you used to do for one another. Try to bring at least some of this back (this means both of you putting in the effort) and see how much things change when you do. 

By Manali