When you find yourself in an unfortunate divorce situation, it can feel like your world is crumbling and falling apart around you. 

You’re likely to experience stress, anxiety, and even depression after ending a marriage. The last thing you want to do is spend all your time worrying about logistics when there’s so much else going on!

However, to make the divorce process less painful, it’s essential to take care of crucial aspects ahead of time. Here are ten tips for divorcing families to help you stay organized and keep things running smoothly.

Tip #01: Gather all necessary documents

Before you do anything else, you should begin gathering all the documents you will need to file for a divorce.

Do you have all your financial records? Will your partner be filing a response? Has anyone claimed that the marriage is ‘irretrievably broken’? If not, then you’ll need to prove it. 

Tip #02: Give yourself time off from work

Depending on how contentious your divorce is, you may need to take some time off work to attend court hearings and meet with lawyers. Ask your lawyer if you can prepare for hearings or trial during weekends.

 The emotional roller coaster of marital breakdown can make work seem like your sanctuary, but it can also sometimes be tough to focus, especially right before a court hearing or trial. It can be tough on your employer if you decide to up and quit one day without any warning simply because you’re too emotional to cope. Talk to your employer about staying away an extra couple of days or taking a vacation beforehand – it can help avoid this scenario.

Tip #03. Get organized!

If you are ever to get through this process, you must get organized. Providing documents to your lawyer in an organized and timely manner will save you a small fortune. If your lawyer’s assistants need to make repeated requests of you, or track down lost documents for you, these costs will accrue quickly. You should keep copies of all documents related to the divorce, including court orders and any correspondence with your lawyer.  For extra protection (and convenience), consider asking for all essential files to be scanned onto a flash drive which you can then carry around with you, particularly if there is intense acrimony.

Tip #04: Communicate with Your Ex-Spouse

It is essential to communicate with your ex-spouse throughout the divorce process. Communication is key in any relationship, especially true during a divorce which involves children. Therefore, make sure you are communicating effectively with your ex-spouse. This will help to avoid any misunderstandings or conflicts.

Try to be understanding and cooperative when it comes to communication. If your ex-spouse is not responding to your messages, don’t get angry or frustrated. Your words may end up as an exhibit in the courtroom. Avoid embarrassment and just keep trying until you can resolve it.

Remember that the goal is a divorce process that is as smooth as possible for everyone involved. Communicating effectively with your ex-spouse is one of the best ways to achieve this goal.

Tip #05: Cooperate

Try to cooperate as much as possible during the divorce process. This will make things easier, and less stressful for everyone involved. Finding a compromise that is palatable to you will help to keep the costs down, so be sure to make looking for ways to cooperate your top priority throughout the divorce process.

Tip #06: Don’t Play Blame Games

Don’t play blame games with your ex-spouse during the divorce process. This will only lead to more conflict and hate.

When going through a divorce, it’s important to try and stay away from blame games. It will only add more stress to an already difficult situation. You may believe that the other person is to blame for your marriage failing, but you can’t change their actions.

You have control over how you react and respond to their behavior. To make the divorce process smooth and stress-free, focus on what needs to be handled instead of putting all of your energy into blaming someone else.

Tip #07: Keep Your Emotions in Check

It is important to keep your emotions in check during the divorce process. If you allow yourself to get too emotional, it can be difficult to think clearly and make good decisions. Also, make sure your kids are taken care of during the divorce. You will need to make arrangements for them, and it is important that they feel supported throughout this time.

Tip #08: Don’t Take Things Personally

Don’t take things personally during the divorce process. Your spouse may say or do hurtful things, but it is important to keep your emotions in check and not let them get out of hand. You want to stay focused on what is best for you and your family!

Tip #09: Be Prepared for a Long Divorce Process

The divorce process can be long and drawn out, so it’s important to be prepared for this ahead of time. Set your mind to this being a long term goal, and enter into a manageable payment plan with your lawyer. If your matter is uncontested, or disagreements are few, you will receive your funds back when it settles. Hurrah! Also, make plans with friends or family members who might be able to help while going through the divorce. They will prevent you from losing perspective, which is very easy to do during marital conflict.

Tip #10: Don’t Forget to Take Care of Yourself

During Divorce Process, It is important to take care of yourself during the divorce process. This means getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and exercising regularly. In addition, make sure you have some “me time” during this difficult time so that you can relax and de-stress. Taking care of yourself will help you feel as good as possible through the divorce process!


Fleetwood Family Law is here to help you through your divorce. Our family lawyers understand that this is a difficult time for you and your family and is committed to providing the best possible service to their clients. 

We hope these tips for divorcing families have been helpful. If you would like more advice or assistance with your divorce, please contact our office today for a free consultation. We would be happy to help.

By Manali